Baffled
Ok, so I just have a second. I'm at the hair salon in the mall on their wifi and I just met a woman - well past her twenties - that had never had one ounce of color on her hair. We visited a few minutes before we got summoned to our hairdressers and I learned that she and her man were in ministry. She was a darling thing. Interesting. Fun. Clearly loved Jesus. We hadn't talked hair yet. After all, we are women with our priorities straight. Then we met up back in the color section of the salon where my hair already had enough foil in it to bring in every radio station in North America. That's when she said it. "This is the first time I've ever gotten color." I was nearly speechless. I nearly broke my neck turning around to look at her. To make sure she'd said what I thought she'd said. The color specialists were aghast at the confession. Shamed maybe. Kinda like, "Some things shouldn't be said in public." You could have heard a hair pin drop.
"What did you say?" I broke the awkward silence.
"I've never done this before. I'm trying my first highlights."
For the life of me, I could not think of a single other person I knew of reasonable age who had never doused her head in a tad of tint. I had all manner of questions. Something in me demanded to know why but something else in me felt protective of her. She looked so innocent. So naive. So new. And I was proud. So very proud.
"Your first highlights!" I exclaimed. "You're doing the right thing!"
And there was bonding.
She came by and showed me later, after it was all blown dry and styled. I looked through the stringy strands of my dripping hair and beheld a vision. Subtle but definitely a start. More bonding. As she walked away, I sat in the chair, blow dryer thundering in my ear, and sighed with deep satisfaction, so thankful I'd gotten my own roots done.
It was a beautiful thing.
462 Comments:
I'm 43 and never had my hair colored but the minute I see gray I will be heading straight to my stylist!
I have started calling my grey hair(s) albino hair instead of grey. I am fast approaching 30 and I am going to have to break down and get me some highlights to cover those things, but I am still in denial at the moment. AHHH!
HI Beth:
I am 38 and never had a tad of tint either. I am getting the grays, but I am scared to do the highlights just yet and not to mention that it is pricey.
I am waiting till 40 maybe and then I will do it. Whoever does your hair does a great job!! I actually took a picture of you - the one from this blog and showed my hair lady, I love your bangs and she was having a hard time seeing what I meant so I showed her your picture and said "like her bangs" I am embarassed to tell you that, but we talked all about you and who you were and I told her she just had to do one of your studies. It was fun and I told her you would just die if you knew I brought in your picture to be the model for my bangs. Bible study mentor now hair model!! You are awesome and I love you!!
Dear Beth,
You make me laugh so hard. I confess, I am part of the "never colored my hair group" (had some bad perms back in the eighties, though). I'm 46, and the Lord has bless me with naturally blond hair. I love to watch the expression on ladies' faces when they ask who colors my hair, and I say "God does!".
Can't wait to see you in San Diego just a few weeks away! My mom and I are having a much needed "girl's weekend" together. Praying God's favor and blessings on you, your staff, worship team, and all your families as you all prepare and travel.
With Love,
Karen H. in California
AMEN to COLOR!!!!
Oh Lord you are SOOOOOOOOOO GOOD to know just what we daughters down here need!!!
We THANK YOU for inspiring the hair coloring industry with all the beautiful array of imagination to help those of us with sorry roots!!
We Thank you in JESUS NAME!!!
And THANKS for sharing Beth!!
Deb W. in MI
mama beth
you are like that moment when you frantically dig through your purse (and sometimes look under the couch cushions) and suddenly realize that you have enough change to buy your favorite splurge at the coffee shop. What joy!! A BEAUTIFUL THING! :)
i am trying to decide between highlighting again (my best friend showed me 'the light' when i was 18, PTL for her..) or going darker..it's just hair..but we've all seen those "oh...you got..your hair...dyed..." heads and i don't want to be that girl (eeeek!)
Beth,
Thanks for the reminder that my own roots are showing. Now for a little praise and a cutest story.
I took Grace to the doctor yesterday for her follow-up visit. She will stay on her medication until the middle of June. She will then go off of the medicine and we wait to see what happens. The doctor said that it could be 3 months, 3 or 13 years before we have another episode. I should have told him (but didn't) that God can touch her and it can be never, and that will be the one I'm counting on. He is so good!
For the cute story: the night after her colonoscopy/endoscopy, I was laying in bed with her when I shared with her the news that really the only thing that would change is that she could no longer have popcorn. To which Grace began to sob...yes sob.
Grace: But mama, I love popcorn.
Me: But Grace you don't even eat it that much.
Grace: Mama, no one will want to marry me, now.
Me: What are you talking about?!
Grace: Well, you know when you're at the movies and you both reach for popcorn and your hands touch and you fall in love...that won't happen now!
Me (through laughter): Well Grace, you hands can touch while reaching for Twizzlers.
I then went on to explain that a boy is going to fall in love with her because she's beautiful, smart and loves Jesus with all her heart. But I could not wait to share that story. Kids are just amazing and precious!
Blessings,
Kimberly
I am baffled right with you, Beth! Much like peanut butter and chocolate, I believe God made hair dye and bleach as a gift to women! Oh, how a woman feels whole again when the grey fades away...about every 6 weeks!
I love you dearly for bringing "a Word" to my ear each day,
Nicole in Michigan
Well, Beth, I don't know if I should be proud or ashamed, but I will be 52 in less than a month and I have NEVER had any coloring in my hair! I thought about it, but, I figured at some point you just have to quit doing it. I mean, I've seen some very odd colors on some very old people. Somehow it just didn't look right. I do regularly get my hair permed though.
The gray hair has NEVER bothered me. I don't get much sympathy for it, but I do get A LOT of people who mistake me for my 10 year old's, grandma! (She was our miracle after 2 miscarriages and MANY years of trying!)
Melana in (still snowy) Wyoming
***sneaks in to sheepishly admit she was 40 before trying highlights...also VERY subtle...and very glad I did!***sneaks out***
LOL.
I'm 33 and have never had any coloring or highlights at all. I've always said God chose the hair color He did for a reason, and who am I to think I can pick a better color than God did? :o) (I may stop saying that when the gray begins to overtake the brown, however!)
I have highlighted my hair since before my husband and I were married (18 years in August!!). He will say now that I don't need to do it anymore because my natural color is fine - I don't think he has ever really seen my natural color (muddy, dishwater blonde).
I found your blog today for the first time. I must tell you what an incredible privilege it has been to study the Bible under your leadership. It has been life changing. Thank you!
I just started a group at my home of high school and college girls. We are going through Believing God. This is the first Bible Study for several of the girls and they are just lapping it up! Praise God!! We are going to call our group Armed and Dangerous and continue to meet for future studies this Spring and Fall.
I praise God for calling you into the ministry. Thank you for heeding His call.
Lori from California.
And you're certain she was an earthling and that you weren't encouraging an angel unaware? :)
Lisa
I'll be 31 in May, and I haven't had any color put on my hair, either. Y'all pray for me.
tBeth,
What a fun story! Somedays you just need to take time to laugh. Your lightheartedness and joy was very much needed today! Thanks for sharing with us, Siestas!
I seem to be getting mine done more and more often. I have a friend who is 52 and has never had color put on her hair either!! Not one bit of gray! I'm 44 and don't even want to know how much I have.
Beth, I am a hairdresser, and I am amazed when I see people who want try color. Just a few hi-lites makes someones face shine. You always have pretty hair. I am letting mine grow. I have some good hair days and some not so good.
I am doing the Psalms of Ascent study and love it. I am one of the Raleigh girls.
Love you, Melissa Sugg Goldsboro,NC
I had never had color in my hair until last August when I went for my first highlights. I am 33. And I come from a family of hair colorers, my mom and grandmother both are/were prematurely grey and I have never known a time when they didn't color. My sister also has many highlights trying to keep her naturally blond hair from turning dark.
Well I got my roots done on Monday (oh yes) and it was a beautiful experience...amazingly, I even seemed to feel better as I walked out of the salon, so tired when I went in and energized when I came out...LOL
I'm 29 and I have never had any color on my hair :).
Wow...colouring my hair has been a hobby for years...my dad remained a blonde until his 60's, that didn't happen in my case.
Now that's just tragic. Hair coloring should be a rite of passage and the fourth R - reading, 'riting, 'rithmetic, and roots. I can't tell you how many heads of hair I've seen and thought, "If she only had some highlights..." I don't even feel pretty unless I'm freshly dyed. I'm shallow that way.
Oh bless her! I, myself, can't count the times I've had mine colored or *gasp* colored it MYSELF. Oh, yes ma'am.
Because I am daring like that.
And cheap.
lol thanks for the laugh Beth!
God bless-
Amanda
http://iammommy.typepad.com/
Beth,
You are so funny. I may not have much money, but I am definitely determined not to let the rapidly graying roots on this girl's do show as long as they got hair color at the Wal-Mart... Funny thing happens when I put that two dollar bottle of L'OREAL on my hair - It comes out with highlights... I think it is just a God anointing on my hair color, cause there is not other reason why my chocolate colored hair would have some reddish brown tints in it along the way! It is a sight to behold after the first few days of new dark wear in...
Okay... Be Blessed with your roots and all! And what an encouragement you must have been to this sweet girlfriend who was being baptized in the hall of highlights for the first time! I bet she and you were just aglow!
Blessings
Beth! You make me laugh and smile so hard! I LOVE U!
This post is too funny!
Confession is good for the soul...so....In my late 30's and
never "gotten color".
I must confess that I never really thought much about my hair until I moved to Texas. It's the land of the beautiful people...or so it seems. I also never thought once about nails or eyebrows. I remember sitting in on my first Bible study here in TX, after having had the realization that such things were important....I carefully took a visual tour around the room and it was all confirmed. All of the above were perfect, on every one...no matter the age. I took notice and I certainly thought the same should be true of me. But, in the end, I'm still a very low-maintenance girl with decent hair, not-so-perfect, fairly UNshaped brows and unmanicured nails.
Oh yeah...I have NEVER had a manicure and to be honest, I don't really want one.
But bless those of you who do. :)
I LOVE it!!! Bonding, not gossiping is what should be happening at the salon!!! Im kinda sad that the guy who does my hair isn't in a big salon, I don't ever get to visit with new people. But he and I have an awesome time. I am so counting down to next Thurs when I get my "natural" red back!! Lol!!
Thanks for the laugh!!
Nikki
I have to say I started in 8th grade and haven't looked back. I will not say how long ago that was but I will say the bleach used to bleach everything in it's reach and sting the fire out of your eyes and nose hairs LOL!(1985 had to confess-feels good). We are tight on money right now so I have gone dark so the up keep is less but man I guess the last time I did so I did not have those crazy wire hairs that do not dye. Some one said they are "grey hairs" For shame! Can you believe that? I am conting down the days til I get my weave-seriously 13 days. Love the story and you all!!!
Amen and halleluja! Praise God for hair color and the professionals who apply it for us!
How special for this precious young thing to share her first color experience with someone so precious.
Funny, funny, funny, post. The Lord knows I needed a laugh right about now!
Well, I must baffle you too!!! I'll be 29 in June and have never put any color in my hair...I keep saying I want to. My hair is a red-auburn color...maybe some dramatic gold...or dark chocolate??? I dont know, Im always so scared! And there's the upkeep...Im a homeschooling momma of 4 little girls that keep me really busy...I can barely get there to get my hair cut!
I, too, was at the mall today, shopping for a few new things before my trip next week to Hawaii. In the dressing room I beheld my wide swath of gray and glistening roots, as I've been waiting until the last possible moment to have them done before the trip, lest a single one show in the Hawaiian sun. For a moment, I thought to myself, "maybe I should just let it go." Then I sat suddenly, warding off a sudden bout of light-headedness and nausea. Thankfully, the moment passed without incident and no one was aware of that moment of sheer stupidity accept me. Obviously, I really DO need a vacation!
By the way...I'll be sure to notice the freshly tinted roots on your sweet head when I see you in Jacksonville this weekend! :o)
I'm the daughter of a wonderful beautician in Mississippi -- a woman who raised me well to believe that all life's woes can be solved with a prayer....and a good hair cut/color! Got to love the foil, my siestas!
I actually have 3 very good friends - all redheads - who have never dyed their hair. I can't say the same thing. In fact, I don't even know how many different shades mine has been! I started highlighting my hair in high school. My momma brought me up right!
Beth,
I, too, am a minister's wife only I am 62 and not in my 20s as your new young friend from the salon. I, too, have never had one ounce of color on my hair - seems God is doing that for me. However, your blog today has given me some courage to maybe at least think about it.
Debbie
You are such a gracious hair friend.
Under that kind of hair pressure I would have crumbled.
My dear Sister-in-Love (and friend) has four kids ages 2 - 10, a precious husband of 14 years, home-schools, and has NOT ONE grey hair. I love her anyway.
I just plucked my first gray hair from my EYEBROW!, so I am working on my bitterness...
Anyway, thank you for sharing your Salon Story. It comes at a perfect time. I am going in tomorrow for a color, cut and removal of un-slightly facial hair. This post is the perfect reminder to be watch for, and be sweet to those "first-timers". ;)
I understand the bafflement. My sister in law is no spring chicken, and she has had nary a single chemical process on her hair, and doesn't need one! How she escaped the 80's without it, I will never know. Awe inspiring, I tell you. Sort of like a Sasquatch, you hear about them, but never really believe they exsist.
You're too cute! Aren't you so thankful to be a woman...can you imagine men bonding over highlights. Do they even know what highlights are?
Thanks for the laugh :)
aahhhh The thrill of the "highlights". I've been there a time or two myself. I decided a couple years ago to let my natural shiny highlights show. Now when I go outside it is a veritable halo 'round my head. And do you know how I know the halo is goin' on? I was walking outside with my grandsons momma when she laughed and said "I thought you weren't going to color your hair anymore?" ROFL Believe me, due to circumstances we needed the laugh at the time!
Sweet Beth,
You are too cute! I'm very much 30-something and not only have I never had a single drop of color on my hair but I've only used a curling iron a handful of times in the last few years (mostly to do my daughter's hair before her recitals) and the last time a hair dryer was used in my house, the refrigerator repairman was using one to de-ice my freezer!! I don't even use hair products!
My only excuse for this level of ugliness (besides the fact I homeschool four kids under 8y.o.) is that I don't have time and can't afford it.
I'll just have to wonder at the mystery of it all and hope I don't offend you when I see you in May! heehee
Much love in Christ!
tulip in Idaho
My mom (who is 54) has never touched color to her hair either. Neither have I, but I'm only 26 so I probably don't "count" yet. :) I think Mom's just grateful to HAVE hair after a bout with breast cancer 5 years ago and subsequent chemo and all the horrific hair loss that comes with it.
I love you Beth!!! You are soooo REAL!!!!
Love, Angela
Beth, you are just too cute. You and I would have to "bond" over something besides hair color, though. I've been graying since my 20's - allowed a stylist or two to convince me to cover the grey once or twice over the years - but the last time I did so was when I discovered that at the age of 40 I was pregnant with my daughter. =) Nope. Despite the fact that I had not colored my hair in years, there was no way that I was going to go see my OB doctor, pregnant at 40 with gray hair. My daughter just celebrated her 17th birthday. We laugh all the time (now) at the strangers that will tell me that they love my hair, because my grey (salt and pepper really) hair was an embarrassment to my daughter just a few years ago.
Speaking of my daughter, Emily and I recently started your study on the Psalms of Ascent, "Stepping Up". We are listening to the audio on Sunday evenings together and doing our Monday-Friday homework on our own - sharing insights with each other as we are comfortable. Emily has grown to love you over the years that I have worked through most of your studies, including "Believing God" and "Living Beyond Yourself" online, as well as watching some of your teachings on "Passion" DVDs. What a joy it is to me for the two of us to be doing a study together before she leaves for college next year.
You are such a blessing to the Body of Christ, Beth.
Much love,
Patricia
Beth, you are so funny with the way you write, you totally crack me up! I bet your husband just loves you so much!!! Speaking of husbands...will you blog sometime about us single gals who long for one and the Lord is silent? How we should handle this, pray, etc.?? I would love your thoughts sometime...I know there are many out there like me (even though some days I feel like the only one left!) Thanks Beth!
Kelly
St. Louis
Hah! I've got her beat. I just got my FIRST HAIRCUT in a salon last June. My previous 33 years of life included only my husband trimming my ends for me. Hee-hee. Now I know you're in shock. My hair dresser was! She couldn't believe I didn't even OWN a hair dryer, curling iron, etc. I had to leave from my hair appointment and go to Sally Beauty Supply to buy stuff. I haven't worked up to the highlights yet. But I LOVE LOVE LOVE my hair now that it's cut. And when I style it, I feel so beautiful and glamorous. Although my hubby says I look all sexy (can I say that word here?) without it styled b/c it's all curly and wild. Fun stuff!
You are so cute, Beth! Gloss with color rinse every 6-8 weeks keeps me happy! =)Jill
Amen to this post!!! I've been highlighting my hair since I was a teenager (I'm 37 now). There's nothing better for a pick-me-up than getting my hair done. It is as good as the quality time I spend each morning with the Lord!!!
And thank you, Jesus, for gifting women with the art of mixing color!! :-)
Beth, you are a hoot!!
I love you, Denise
Manhattan, KS
Beth, you make me laugh out loud! Thanks,
Mindy
Love it! I gotta tell ya, I was watching you on Life Today (like I do EVERY Wednesday) and I could not get over how darn cute your outfit was! Red button down top and capris and those adorable shoes! This 19 year old gives you two thumbs up! :)
I'm 35 and never had my hair colored. But the day is coming soon as those crazy grays are starting to show their ugly head.
Will you be appalled to know that at 33 years of age I've never had my hair colored either? No highlights. No lowlights. No nothing. Just me. And yes, I have a few gray hairs these days but no plans to cover them up... mainly cause I'm too cheap. I am brunette with a natural red undertone and, if I spend enough time in the sun, natural blond highlights.
Which brings me to a pet peeve of mine. I CANNOT tell you how many times during a discussion among those who color their hair someone who just declared they could NEVER go back to their natural color will turn to me and say, "my natural color is about the same color as yours."
Don't get me wrong. If a siesta wants to color her hair - go for it! But is it really necessary to insult me by saying how much you dislike your natural color and how close it is to mine? I choose to believe these Siestas (who are usually "blonder than they pay to be") just don't realize how insulting they are being. They have no idea they just implied they don't like my hair color.
Oh well. I like it. And so does my hubby. And his opinion is really the one that counts (most of the time).
Mrs. Beth! How cute are you? Thank you so much for a good laugh tonight! That sweet girl will now have an 'addiction' to an expensive hobby that we as women have to do once every 6 - 8 weeks. I'd like to welcome that sweet girl to the world of hair! Can't wait to see that color in Jax on Friday :))))
I don't even know what my natural color is anymore...hmmm
Beth, maybe I shouldn't admit this, but I've never had any color on my hair either -- and I am 52!! I tell everyone that my hair staying dark has simply been the grace of God :) I have to admit, I'm getting more gray hair all the time & will probably have to break down soon and get it colored. Click on over to my blog and see the amazing 52 year old whose never colored her hair! :)
That's a good one. I have a funny hair color story I have to share. One of my female suday school students who was about 14 at the time asked me why I colored my hair. Don't you like the color God gave you she asked innocently? Of course I do I told her....and I'll do whatever it takes to get it back.
Love,
Sarah in Wyoming
You are so weird! It must be why I love you so much.... Besides the fact that my ladies Bible study adore your studies and are always left hungering for more of the word, you would fit right in with us. We are weird and in love with Jesus too!
I've spent the last 3 months living in another country. I am in desperate need of highlights. And in spite of that, have bonded with the most fantastic group of believers.
God is so faithful to send people across our path who demonstrate, in some way, His goodness whether it be in the salon or with all our roots showing.
Hair color is a beautiful thang! I was 32 before I ever had my first experience and I have never looked back! My hairdresser and I have an understanding...I go "lighter in summer" and "darker (which means still light just not as light as summer)" for the winter! I love highlights and lowlights and all over color. I feel like a new woman when I emerge! And couldn't everyone use a little transformation every now and then??!!!
Praying for you tomorrow and the rest of this week.
Thanks for keepin' it real!
I confess: I am 48 years old and I got my first highlights at....47, one week before my first date since 1983 (yes, it was every bit as awkward as it sounds!) They must have worked, because a year later, I think he's going to ask me to marry him. Only my hairdresser knows for sure! (oh, you have to be OLD to remember that commercial!
It is hard to imagine someone who has not ever had a single 'tad of tint' in her hair! I am getting "blonded" as I call it, on Friday, and I CANNOT wait!! I was at Tuesday night Bible Study, our last in that sanctuary as it was...which was amazing by the way, and I was close to the front, with bright lights shining on me, wondering and hoping no one noticed how dark my roots were!! That sweet, young thing will probably feel so good about her new highlights, and I sure hope that her hubby notices!! Mine rarely does anymore, but that's okay, because I know!! Being "blonded" is the BEST! Oh the little things that make us happy!!
Just wish I could show you my Mom's beautiful auburn hair. At 78. She has never had an ounce of color either. If you look really close, every once in a while, you might see a silver strand trying to make it's presence known. I always tell my Mom she's a mutant! (with love, of course)
Miss Beth, I think you'll love this one! When I met my husband (almost 11 years and 3 kids ago :-) ) my hair was Redken Copper Penny. When we were newly married and money was tight, I quit coloring my hair to save a little money (didn't tell him). One day he realized that my hair was a completely different color and asked me, "what have you done to your hair?" You see, he never knew I had it colored before (men don't ask these things -- at least my man doesn't). Anyway, I told him that I'd stopped coloring my hair to help our budget (feeling mighty proud of my sacrifice) and then he looked at me and said, "you're a liar." He thought the fact that I colored my hair made me a liar! I couldn't help myself... I laughed until I hurt all over and told him that he'd better be careful who he shared that opinion with because most women I knew "lied" about every 6 weeks to keep their roots from showing! :-) I hope this makes you smile! Oh, and by the way, now he helps me "lie" at home with Garnier hair color. :-) How's that for coming around? :-)
Hi Beth,
These girl moments are so special aren't they! I did the roots thing this week as well, only to experience the additional humiliation of having my CUTE, TINY, YOUNG, little hairdresser show me her own gray roots all the while expressing her utter horror at getting OLD!!
All I could do was hope that she did not get a look at my chin!!!
I will be amongst the 30,000 with you in Jacksonville this weekend, looking oh, so, much younger than my age!
Blessings,
pat
Ms. Beth,
I was 35 before I ever had ANY kind of coloring done to my hair. Now, almost 37, gonna have to get something done - I think I am going to be fully gray before I'm 38!
Didn't begin staining my hair until I was 40. Didn't need to. Need to now!
If any of you get a few moments, I would love to share with you my recent post about "Walking in Resurrection." So many of us linger in Good Friday without fully embracing the walk of Easter.
Something to think about as we move beyond the tomb to our glorious privileged identity as God's Easter people.
peace for the journey~elaine
I am 29 and so far no color, highlights, perm... I am holding out until the gray starts to come!
I love how you see the beauty in everyday life. Thank you so much for teaching all of us how to do the same!
Well, I've never had my hair highlighted either. Of course, I do have about 4-6 different colors in my hair depending on the season and how much I've been out in the sun. Usually I have at least auburn, blond, and chestnut. People have always asked who did my hair and I proudly proclaimed "God does!". I take absolutely no credit for it. Interestingly enough, when I was in middle school and especially high school I got teased a good bit due to my hair color. My "boyfriend" at the time even called my Neapolitan after the ice cream!
Thankfully, both my children have the same hair coloring and they get compliments all the time.
Sorry I couldn't relate! But I do understand the shock. I used to be amazed that girls in high school were gettin' their hair highlighted. I never understood why!
Love ya and hope to see you in June in Atlanta!
Aimee
Too funny, but I have a confession! It was just last April I got my first highlights...I was 28!! Love them and now there's no going back. =)
No way!! I think must have found the only woman in North America who's never had color on her hair! Glad to see she's joined the "highlight" side. As for me, I have so many colors of blond in my hair it's a regular blond par-tay!!
~Cheryl
ROFL! I turned FIFTY in September - and in October I tried a different color for the VERY FIRST TIME!!! I'm a redhead - and it was just a much DEEP DEEP DEEEEEEEEEEPER shade of red. But it was enough to teach me that I really LIKE my natural color - and I will NEVER DO THAT AGAIN!!! God gave me a gift in my hair - and I won't mess with it again! I promise!
That just gave me the biggest smile! Who knew hair color could bring women together! I'm sure most of you ladies would agree, salon time is fun and relaxing for sure :)
I'll never know when I go gray. People ask if my name is German (Sickmiller). When I say yes, they say, "I should have known with your blonde hair and blue eyes. I just chuckle to myself.
...hair color (double-processed), colored contacts, not my maiden name...the only thing true about me is that I am a sinner saved by GRACE!
Hmmm……Sweet Beth…
Confession…when I read about your beautiful Melissa getting “fresh highlights” in one of the blogs before the wedding, I felt that clearly I was missing something. She’s drop dead gorgeous (both of your girls are), 25 years old and needs fresh highlights?!?!
As a 35 year mother of two who has never had a touch of tint, this question lingered with me and inspired me to schedule a hair cut/consultation at one of the trendy hair salons here in Jacksonville.
After all… “temple maintenance” includes hair right?
$55 later and with just a simple hair cut and 90 seconds of diffused hair drying (I have curly hair)…no hair color/tinting needed. Maybe I should go back to the Christian stylist who charges me $18.
Would someone kindly clue me into what I’m missing? Is it a Texan women-thang? Or, maybe I’ve got my head so far deep into diapers, ministry, work, and laundry that I’m out of it.
Dark brown,
Susan
From one highlighted blond to another, I am laughing OUT LOUD!!! Just had mine done on Good Friday.
LOL...well, Beth, deciding whether or not to get ones hair highlighted can be a huge issue. It has been for me, especially this year.
Here's why....
I have long beautiful naturally curly hair. It used to be blond, but now it's sort of light brown with reddish highlights. In fact, you can click here to see me.
I took these goofy pictures with my cool Mac photo booth application that takes 4 quick pictures in a row....
I digress....
Anyway, getting highlights is a hard decision because I have a ton of gray hair coming in (AND I LOVE IT) Yes, I LOVE my gray hair, but many people in my life like it when I highlight it.
But here's the deal, you really can't see my grey unless you're me (and my husband or a little twirp at school where I am the school's elementary school counselor part time) I've actually had these kids give me fashion and hair tips.
Anyway, I'm almost 40 (there I said it) and even though my online job at Active Christian Media is rather behind the scenes, my daytime job and a marriage and family therapist lends me to have a decent appearance and one that at times helps looking older. See, if you LOOK older then people think you're wiser. (Which is one reason why you should stop coloring your hair :) )
Kidding...
Seriously, the COST is what gets me. That and I hate taking the time to do touch ups bla bla bla....
Yuck.
How's that for a rant on this whole subject. You started it girlfriend, and if you're actually blogging from there, well, you're my kind of gal. Have laptop will travel. (Highlights and all...)
In fact, have you heard this new Pat Boone song....
"You Highlight my life....You give me Blond...When I can't carry on...."
Only girls with their priorities straight would bond over highlights. I love it!
Ummm...and can I just say that I am seriously delighted about the fall? And I mean overjoyed! You don't even know, Miss Beth. :)
Lindsee
Well, I am approaching 40, and still haven't tried it yet either. (My BFF says to just pull out the offending folicles) I'm thinking for the 40th bday...?!!
I love you so. I am 38 and have had my hair colored for 10 years now!! Praise God for highlights!
Hi Beth,
Just had to say I have never had color on my hair and I am almost 54. I have strawberry blond hair with some grey, but because of the variegated hair color I was born with it doesn't show as of yet. But when the grey is more noticeable and I need a lift I'll bite the bullet and go for it. See you in CO in May.
Jan
Williamsburg VA
Too funny! I just read this after I colored my hair! lol I am only 36 but gray is taking over and I am so not ready so I do what I must! Thanks for making me smile!
I guess you're being baffled some more... there are many older than me that don't color here! I'm 28 and starting to get white (yes, white, not grey) hairs. I still don't think I'll break down and color my hair. I don't really see what the point is. It's just so much work and money (my hair is sometimes really long) and I've always been leery of too much chemical on my hair after watching my mom's get super thin and stringy from perms for 30+ years.
I was 43 the first time I had highlights. I loved it! I couldn't believe I had waited that long! I live in Jacksonville and I'm looking forward to see you this weekend!
Oh, so funny! That sounds like me!! I'm 32 and had my hair highlighted for the 1st time about 2 years ago. Since then I've had it highlighted once more and colored twice! The coloring has been 2x in the last 3 months because my very dark brown hair has these sprouts in the front that are very gray! I'm so new to this that I barely understand the differences between highlighting and coloring??? Thanks for the fun laugh!
Oh my! I can't recall a time I didn't color my hair! maybe in junior high? oh, wait-I tried Sun In when I was in 8th grade (much to my mother's horror).
PS-I had my roots "done" on Sat so I'd be ready for Easter. I couldn't walk into church with dark roots showing!
i'm 42 and have never had my hair colored a bit - don't plan to. my hair is jet black so the gray i have stands out. most of my gray is at my temples (my husband says if i was a guy i would look distinguished, but i'm not so i just look old - he says it jokingly). since it is gray, i try to keep the hairs in front of my ears as short as possible.
i do get a kick out of you comments about your hair - such a joy!
Sweet Beth,
Help me out here-I thought you told us at Esther you highlighted your own hair? Now, I bought your mascera & lipstick & even tried to style my hair with a plastic fork like you did. So for all of us Beth-wannabes which mall & which salon? (I just moved to Houston)!
We love you so much and can't wait to meet Jackson's daddy!!
Not only have I "had" to color (which I like to call "back to natural") I am even guilty of using my mascara wand for a few touch-ups before the glorious appointment arrives! I also love the 45 minutes or so under the dryer...no kiddos, caffeine in hand and a good read! Thank you, Jesus! Ü
How To Get $4 Highlights In 15 Minutes:
Wait until the gray starts coming in.
Use Revlon ColorSilk Root Perfect (10 Minute Root Touch-Up) one shade lighter/darker than your natural color.
The gray hairs look like highlights! (And using the smaller amount of haircolor leaves a few grays so you don't get that "painted helmet" look ; )
Repeat every few weeks!!
AND...the bottles are small enough that you can take them in your carry-on luggage. (Handy for traveling Bible teachers and their faithful crew, etc.)
I am almost 50 and my 15 year old daughter wishes I would get my heir colored! I have some strands of gray, but not enough to cause me to color it
Count me in with the never colored crowd - at 37! Hubby has started noticing and pulling a couple greys now and then for me - but my naturally light brown/auburn gets lighter in the summer, darker in winter, and really I just don't know anybody I trust (and there is really so much BAD hair color out there!)I'm sorry but the STRIPES my dear sister in law came home with from her expensive salon - not for me. So for now, I will remain un-colored, but when the greys really start in - we'll see
Now that is just funny and somewhat shocking! I think that there was a little divine intervention going on to have you in the salon at the exact same time as this sweet woman so that you could guide her through what has got to be the most enjoyable indulgence a woman can experience (outside of a venti latte and a pedicure, of course). We all look better with a little "brightening." What would she have done without you?!?
I have been coloring my hair since I was 14. Yes, I realized at a young age that there is no sense putting off what was obviously the inevitable.
Thank you for the laugh today and the reminder to call my stylist to schedule some Spring highlights!
I am in my 30's and I have never colored or highlighted my hair.
I love you Beth! You just make me laugh when I need a good one. Besides the hair salon would not be the same with out some bonding, whether with your stylist or other ladies there.
for my 50th birthday, I gifted myself with a promise to get my hair colored every 6 weeks until I just can't do it anymore. I tell you, I had to dig deep in the back of my head to find a "natural color" hair, but I did, and I love the way my hair looks! My husband is completely gray, and he loves having a "younger" wife :)
That's too funny. I started highlighting my hair when the grey started to show. I love it! The blonde streaks helped brighten and blend the other colors. But it's interesting when one of my national Asian friends picks up several strands of my hair and asks, "Which one is your real color?" Ha!
I've been going under the bottle since I was 15... for over half my life now. I don't regret it a lick. Sometimes I do sit and try to remember what my natural color is, though.
I just got my hair highlighted yesterday! Couldn't do without it! : )
I am SO EXCITED... I am going home tomorrow to JACKSONVILLE! I grew up there! I am taking my 14 year old daughter (out of school... she is thrilled) so we can come and see you! YEAH! My favorite thing to do in the world is to go to a LPM conference... and I get to go with my Mom and daughter! Praise you Jesus... 3 generations worshiping together! I am so thankful... so thankful!
Can't wait to see your highlights! I am so sorry about your friend Lee!
I'll be praying hard for you and your team!
God Bless- Emmy : )
My hair color is all natural. I would like to think that as I age, I could do it without the aid of color. Then again, I'm only 23, so grey is (Lord willing) a bit down the road. When I get there, I might feel quite differently!
Amanda, just wanted to say you did such a nice job in your tribute to the Elliots, David McDonnall, Karen Watson and Lee Sizemore. Your sweet heart is very much appreciated.
We should not see tree roots so i have been told by my dad... and we should not see hair roots so I have been told by my mom!
thank you for the reminder!
Leigh
I am going next wed morning havent goan since last of Sept.Can't wait. Isnt it great when we can meet people like that.My dog trainer loves the Lord just meet him yesterday to see how she would do to start, this mom was proud of her 4 legged daughter.But it was so neat to see some one with things with Jesus in the open & gave God all the creadet of what all he has.God bless love sister in Christ Victoria NC ps bet you look great
I'm two months away from 41 and the only thing that has affected the color of my hair is giving birth to children and the sun. But the grays are slowly mixing in with my strawberry blonde.....
Can't wait to see you for the first time in San Antonio in August-no matter how your hair looks!
My mom is 53 and has never had any color or highlights put to her blonde hair. She is still as blonde as me. Her dad had the same type of hair and his was a beautiful blondish white when he went to be with the good Lord.
I hope mine last that long as well! Love this post!
You are so right...color is a beautiful thing. ;) Just got my roots freshened up last week. Heehee. :)
Beth,
You are ABSOLUTELY HYSTERICALLY FUNNY! Thank you so much! I needed to laugh and you certainly gave it to me with something as simple as hair color or lack there of...being a woman who started going grey at the ripe old age of 19 I am a color girl myself. Thanks for being so human!
Vicky
Thats so funny!!!
I had a similar situations...
I was sitting in Starbucks not too long ago with a dear friend of mine, now in her mid-50's. She complimented me on my hair color and thinking nothing of it I told her what color and brand it is. I even bragged that since my husband semi-retired I have been doing the color myself and my dear sweet husband does my highlights by pulling it through a cap for me. She then confessed she had never in her life colored or highlighted her hair and didnt know what I ment by "pulling it through a cap".
So of course I explained trying to hold back my shock!
A few days later she called from her cell phone. She was in a store about to buy her first color, I was greatful to be able to talk her through the choice over the phone and assured her I would help. That was about 2 weeks ago......she changed her mind. Pray for her. She's so scared to take that leap of faith.
I didnt get my hair done till I was 50 if then.God bless love sister in Christ Victoria
Siesta Beth,
you are too funny....I had to giggle...as a 42 year old...highlights is part of aging gracefully....I have a gray streak right down the middle of my head and I have to tell you it occurred after I was pregnant. I decided that was a sign of what was to come....so I said PTL ...he gave me somthing to help over what was to come...a trip to the beauty salon.
thanks for being you
love and blessings
Well, I will soon be 36 and I haven't colored my hair either - but its perfectly black and there is no other shade that would look remotely natural with that! Its OK - I have fun by growing it out, cutting it short, blowing stick straight, letting it dry naturally in a tangle of curls...
Thanks for the laughs, Beth!
Beth,
If I'd have run into you in town today you would have had the same reacton....41 and no color. I have a head full of staight dark brown hair that my hair dresser says is "so health" which means to get it to do anything other than lay there I have to use lots of product to "dirty" it up. It won't even hold a clip in for over 30 minutes...the darn thing slides right out...go figure. Loved this post...loved bible study last night..so annointed on our final night :)
My sweet Beth,
This is what I love and treasure so much about you. You are so real and that means so much..
I have been " coloring" my hair since I was 18 and now I am 35.. I haven't seen my natural hair in years. I was a blonde in my younger days.. I had it frosted and just a few weeks ago I got my hair colored to RED.. So many people went on and on and then I said Hey its just hair..
Anyway God is so good all the time. I am glad he loves me in spite of my hair..
Love in Christ,
Laura Russell
Just after we married, my husband helped me do one of those do it yourself frosting/highlighting kits. You know the one with the skull cap and you fish hair with the hook? He did as he was supposed to do and kept asking me, Isn't it time to wash it out now? Oh, I'm just going to leave it on a little while longer...........Eventually to the bathroom I went. When the blowdryer stopped, the image staring at me in the mirror was so 'highlighted' and bright and loaded with volumne........I had so much body it was as if I had been constantly watered with miracle grow. I began to bawl and of course I had locked the door. Finally he coerced me to open it and he will never stop teasing me, twenty-eight plus years later.......my mascara had totally run down my cheeks as back then I could really do up the mascara because my vision was good.....my husband still calls me Alice Cooper sometimes just to stress me into turning gray like him. It was one of the worst times in my young life....... if that was all life would bring, it would be so ridiculously trivial. It would be so much easier to grow things out in predictable time and easily change to something different. Wouldn't it be wonderful to so easily alter current day challenges until you feel satisfied with the results? The humor of these postings has brought a huge smile to my face and colored the void and fatigue in my heart. Thanks! Much love from Annette in SC (I forgot my blog password! The mind is going...must have damaged it during that episode with the fish hook and skull cap....Annette4Clay@aol.com:)
ohmygoodness! that was funny!
I have bright red hair, with a ton of natural highlights. So I haven't ever really wanted to change it, but still, in my girly heart-of-hearts ... kinda do!!!!
Dearest Beth! You are too cute! I am 38 years old and have only dyed my hair once! I remember coming home and my dear husband saying...how much did we pay for that you look exactly the same as when you left! Men! Ha! I did try a perm in my early 20s and that blasted thing lasted me well over a year...that's when spiral perms were in...so that was the last time I permed! You will also just be sick when you hear how long it has been since I had an actual haircut...we moved from CA to TN 9 months ago...guess how long it's been!?! I just can't seem to find a salon I like! So...I promised myself I would research salons and then get myself a nice cut in June...I'm growing my hair and am going to send it in to Locks for Love! Don't gasp too much when you read this! To all my fellow siestas on this blog...you will never know how much your honesty means to me! You are all my friends! With love,
Donna
A little hair humor. A few years back I was traveling to my hairdresser for color and highlights. Waited a little too long because the roots were taking over. I had just gotten a new suv and wasn't use to its pickup and smooth ride (I also have a lead foot. That is why I never have had any bumper stickers labeling me as a question. Not a good witness flying down the mountain with Praise the Lord going by.) I looked out my back window and saw a flashing light on the top, you quested it, a troopers car. I pulled over and put down my window. To take my punishment without wining about. He looked at me, not much older than my oldest son, and asked me if there was an emergency. Had I known he had a sense of humor I would have split my part and cried Yes, look at this mess. But I said no and told him I was sorry. He must have had a good day because all he gave me was a warning. Thank goodness. Everytime I pass the truck run off where I pulled off I always smile.
44 and no color of any kind, ever. I now have about 4 silver hairs right in the front top of my head... that I pluck out every time I see. :o) I don't think I'll have the patience to keep color in it, so when I go silver, I'll be silver.
I'm so glad we have these deep spiritual things to blog about! :o)
I too praise God for haircoloring and the stylist that know how. I have been getting "color" for a while now and i think I'm the luckiest girl ever because my sister is the stylist that does it.
Hats off to all you who color our hair!!!!!!!!!!
Isn't that like the 12th commandment- to get your hair colored? I know it is, it is followed right after the 11th commandment to never admit that you have to color..:~) I for one am going to do the 12th commandment on Friday!! :~) (I am in my mid thirties and only started coloring when I was 28 or so)
I have to laugh...as you walk through my house it looks as though my mother had four of us..my hair is never the same color in any of the pictures!!!
There is after all the winter do..darker hair just a tint of red...the fall do with a little more red highlights..the spring do which is just a hint of blonde.. and the summer do which is all out blonde...I change with the seasons! :~)
I am guessing that this way my husband will not have the "mid life crisis" and think he needs to find a new exciting woman.. he just needs to wait a few weeks and he has one! (that is said in fun..trust me, I have a good man!)
:~)
Blessed be the person who invented color!
Have a great one!
Well....I am kind of sad to say that I'm a color "virgin" too. (Is that bad to say cause if is...I apologize!)
BUT.....there is color on the horizon because I'm finding a few, light colored strands here and there....
I'm 37 and a head full of black hair. I don't have one grey hair. My mom didn't have hardly any gray at 56 so I'm believing I'm following after her. I can't imagine having to color all the time. I would do it if I had to, but I'm so grateful that's not required at the moment. I love my hair color as it is.
I love your how you share your life with us. It makes me smile, thank you for all you give.
Katherine
I had a bad experience with Sun In when I was young...orange hair for most of my teens!
I did not color my hair until I was around 32. However, I am now 47 and I have the most beautiful white hair with dark undertones. A year ago I could not afford nor keep up the coloring. I decided to see how gray I was and behold....it is that beautiful color of white...not gray....but snow white. My eyebrows are still dark and my eyes are piercing green. The hot, vibrant colors I have always loved to wear look even better on me now. I love the look and keeping it short and in cute, sassy style really helps.
Poor thing, in a few weeks she'll wake up one day to.....Grow Out - and then it's back to "the chair" for MAINTENANCE. Oh, the trauma. Oh, the drama. What we women have to do.....
Warm in Alaska (and overdue for a trip to "the Chair").
I change my color with the seasons! Auburn in the fall, blonde in the spring and highlights when I can't decide. What's the point of being a girl if you can't have fun with your hair?
Well...I only just started highlighting my hair to cover (or camouflage) my grays and I'm 35. I started last summer and I have to say I should have started a LONG time ago. It does make you feel so good. I also like it when I've just gotten my eyebrows waxed. It hurts, but I like the way my eyes look once it's done. Sometimes beauty hurts. Which reminds me of the time I had my two little girls with me at the nail shop while I was getting my eyebrows done. They watched in horror from their black chairs in the waiting area. Finally, my younger daughter asked (loudly,) "Mommy, are you crying?" I said, "No, but it does hurt a little." Then, my older daughter clapped and said, "Yea, Mommy! You are so brave!" The ladies at the nail shop let out a collective giggle.
Oh girl! I got my roots done today too! AAHHHH... so much better.
Oh Sista Beth - what a sweet story. That sweet little thing has had a whole new world opened up to her. She will never be the same.
PTL for Loreal Dark Brown 4A. That is my original color - not my natural color at this point in life but my original color.
Love you bunches!
Lisa
Girl, I am a member of the color club! I am all natural right now. However, I am noticing a few grays creeping in. I have been every shade of brown, and red there is known to man. Once I left brown on too long and ended up almost black (gasp.) I would love to try blond, but I don't want to be "that girl" that everyone points at and says how sick she must be to look that way. Oh how I love being a girl!
I am joining the small mass to confess that I too have never had color in my hairand I am 37. I have auburn colored hair. Everytime I go to get my hair cut, I do get asked what colorist I use and what colors do I apply to my hair. Problem is there isn't a color to match mine and I am terrified to allow someone to even try to get close to the color. Right now I am faced with this issue - I have a lot o' silver hairs popping through. I like to consider them my "silver among the gold". They are natural highlights as I like to think. Oh the joys of aging gracefully!
I have enjoyed the pampering of red highlights about three times; but now I'm almost 31 and hanging on to the grays that increase daily. I'm hoping they make me look closer to my age - I'm tired of getting those "oh my goodness look at that teenage mom of two" looks as I shop. Recently someone stopped by our house to sell something and asked if my mother was home - hello, I AM the mother! I know I'll appreciate it in 15 years or so, but right now I'd like to at least look like I'm 20!
Beth, LOVE it. Too funny.
I dont even know if I could tell someone what my "real" hair color is. When I met my now DH I was a redhead. Didn't meet his parents until after we had marriend and were expecting our first child. He had sent them pictures though and apparently I wasn't a redhead in those pictures because I vividly remember them getting off the plane and his Momma saying to me- "I thought you had blonde hair?".
So I went back blonde. Then on my dh's last deployment I got very bored and colored my own hair red. My daughter woke up on Sunday morning to a new mommy. I was expecting some kind words but what I got instead was, "Mom are you really going to church with dialed hair????" Yes- she calls it dialed hair.
Preparing for coming to see you this weekend in Jacksonville. I am so looking forward to a fabulous time, full of blessings.
Too funny! I do have to admit that I am almost 50 and have never colored either. My blonde hair has lots of natural highlights. My hairdresser friend swears she will let me know when the time is right.
Oh, dear Beth, how I love you! I have been coloring my hair for years now (I am 42). Recently, I just have not had the time to go to the salon (or the money actually), so I have been letting mine grow out. Imagine my surprise that you really can't tell the difference - my gray is now so prolific that it kind of looks like highlights! I don't even have that line that I used to get with my roots.
I am not going to keep it this way though...as soon as I have the funds, back to the salon I will go - I just love that newly colored, freshly cut feeling - kind of like those slow-motioned hair commercials when I toss my head...
At age 45 I took my high school girlfriends advice and got my very first dye job! Highlights! I thought the grey coming in made me look "distinguished" but they convinced me otherwise. I couldn't be happier with the results!!!
I understand what jennyhope is talking about; for some reason, at the age of 25, I have gray hair (gasp)?! What is wrong with this picture?? My natural color is brown, and I can't really even dye it back because (get this) I have an allergy to an additive in most brown hair dyes.
Yep, it's either blonde highlights for me or all organic hair dyes that don't work hardly at all-but someone told me that Aveda might make a color without the additive.
Just had to share my hair woes:)
katiegfromtennessee
I'm 37 and have had some sort of highlights since I was in the 10th grade. It's just as things should be. My best friend recently told me I should let my natural grow out (like she was doing) and I looked at her like she was 'new'. What?? I will color my hair until I'm too delirious to know the difference (and even then I've left strict instructions for my husband to have it done). It's just the way things should be.
30 and dye free except for my wedding day which I had highlights. Which I completely do not understand why I chose to look different on MY WEDDING DAY. Oh well but besides that no dye.
I am on the floor laughing. Highlights are a beautiful thing!
So needed this laugh after a hard day!
Sorry Bethie - 50 like you and never had mine done! Don't mind the bit of gray . . . I know, I am a peculiar person - at least that is what my Abba says!!!!
Laughing again - survey says - no color!!!!
Well, since I had my first white hair at 27, I have been coloring my hair for awhile. For the past 6.5 years it's been Feria #59. Now this siesta DOES NOT LIKE CHANGE--so when Loreal discontinues that color, I will be in the home for the bewildered!!! LOL :) Thanks for the smile and God bless you!
Beth, You slay me!!
Miss Clairol and I have been the best of friends for years now. I have had to color since I was 17 ( I was already 10% grey) and I am now 48 (100% grey)! I am not even quite sure what my natural color would be. The beauty of color is you can be whatever color you want!!!! And I am a mixture of 2 or 3 colors to look "natural". HAHAHAHA Praise Him for giving "who ever" the ability to make hair color.
Good for her...givin' it a try.
Comment #2 - now my 27 years old daughter who would have hair as dark as her mom, does the blond thing and it is so pretty - until the roots show!!! Trouble!!!!
Since her wee one is just three weeks old and she had her roots done about 4 weeks before he was born, I told her last week - child, don't you think it is about time to get those roots done??? She made the appointment for the next day and I got to keep my grandson (which is so hard to get extended time with the nursing thing happening!) - what joy, what bliss!!!!
What a hoot! I love it! Someone asked me if I highlighted my 2 year old daughter's hair - she has pretty blonde hair - I wasn't as baffled as I thought I'd react, after all we are in TEXAS?!!!
32 years young and never colored my hair. Not even a highlight. But, don't think I won't hesitate to start once the greys start coming in.
I think I've never bothered to color because my hair is naturally so dark...almost black.
Love the bonding moment between you and the newbie...that was cute!
I wonder what made her decide to do it now?
I love having highlights b/c it breaks up the boring brown.
MOVIE TRIVIA!!
"Just remember there is no such thing as natural beauty.." What movie is that line from? AND " I don't trust a woman who does her own hair it's just not natural."
I just got my hair done today too!
Even more highlights to get excited for Spring....just makes me so very happy! Had lots of compliments at church tonight and it just does wonders for a girls self esteem doesn't it?? Us girls love to talk hair, products, styling stuff, hair wizards, etc. etc etc.
I'm glad you bonded with that darling thing. All in the sweet name of Jesus!
Blessings Miss Beth!
Fran
Love you to pieces!!!! I'm 52 and colored my hair ONCE when I was 13 and couldn't stand the smell.
My grandmother was such a loving woman, I thought her beautiful and wanted to be like her (she was short, plump, very wrinkled and had white hair). Well, I'll never be short, but as long as I can be the example of unconditional love she was to me, the rest is okay.
I love how you so easily connect with and encourage women (you too, me too). May God continue to bless your sweet blond head.
Okay, I was sitting here giggling over Beth's post, then over all the comments while my teenage son was telling his dad a story. I burst into laughter over the 'sasquatch' comment and my son thought I was laughing at him, then saw the computer and said, "Oh -- you're in Beth-land aren't you?" Too funny! At 46 it seems the grays are coming faster and faster -- I got brave the other night and let my 19-year-old daughter color mine at home to save money. It actually worked! And we bonded over the towel and rubber gloves and tubes and stuff! Next month: FOIL!!!
I got my first brassy highlights at the age of 19. NOT a good look for a dark brunette. I've played with color off and on ever since. For the last 12+ years it's been a necessity. I got plenty of gray hairs early in life and I'm sorry, I'm 38 and just don't want to show off the grays yet!!!
I love the way we women can bond over things most men wouldn't have the first clue about :-)
This is one of many reasons I love you!! Women can bond in a beauty shop. If hair color could be a love language it would be one of mine. I'm 43 and have lost count on the amount of hair color I have gone through. It's fun being a woman!
Hey Beth,
Speaking of bonding, I can't WAIT to see you on Friday in Jacksonville! Girl, I have lived all over this country and I have seen you in different states along the way. My first LPM event was in my home state of AZ in Phoenix, 2002. What an amazing time of revival that was for me! Next, I loaded up a 15 passenger van of aunts, cousins & girlfriends and saw you in Laguna Nigel, CA in 2003. Last year I was supposed to see you in Phoenix again, already had my ticket bought when my husband took a job here in South Carolina. So, I saw you in Columbia last April instead of in AZ after we moved. I can't wait until Friday to see you in Jacksonville! You're like a good friend who's gone on all my travels with me.
I'm asking the Lord to prepare our hearts in advance for Friday's event. I know the blessings and a fresh word will be there. I'm anticipating Him. I just can't wait!
Jaime Kesler
Boy can I relate to the foil thing! But I would not have it any other way!! Every 6 weeks!!
Yep! Gotta do it!
I have highlighted for years. However, the gray has finally started overtaking. So, just yesterday I had mine highlighted and LOW lighted. Never done that before. But, I do like the results. It probably is a good thing I had it done yesterday, because last night my three year old added a whole new batch of gray when he busted his head wide open playing pretend swords with his older brother... ended up in the emergency room for three hours... and got 5 stitches on his forehead!!!
kids. gotta love them.
I'm saving my hairginity for the time being! You know how when you go through a tough time in your life and you just want something fresh and new? Well, when the next crisis comes along, I will begin using eye makeup and after that . . . it's all about the hair!
Love, Keri
I am so laughin'!
My appointment is 4/17 at 10am - highlights (1st in over 15 yrs) to cover my gray! sigh. Our 10th anniversary is 4/18 and we're going for an overnight so I gotta look good! :)
blessings, siesta!
Beth,
You tickle me to death.
I love your perspective on life. You live each day to the fullest.
Please know I will be praying for you and the LPM team as you go to Jacksonville. May God show Himself Mighty in that place.
My prayer is that all will leave forever changed by His hand.
Come Lord Jesus!
Hugs
Beth,
Got my roots done today, too!!!! Don't it feel good.
This is such a cute story... I'm working up the courage to get mine done. I turned 29 last week and I'm feeling the need to cover some grey that is starting to peek through. :)It just kindof scares me to think of how it might turn out.
I am laughing out loud, sweet siesta! I had my first highlights ever yesterday...I'm 36 years old. You know when you say something and it feels like your voice magnified? I had 2 people from other parts of the salon really come in and say, "NO WAY!" Glad I'm part of the "Highlight Family"! Karen
I had mine done for the first time when I was 29!! Now at 33, it's out of necessity!!Thank you Jesus for peroxide!!
Oh sweet siesta, I feel you!! My sister had never colored her hair and the Lord had blessed her with the most beautiful jet black, thick head of hair ever. Then about 4 years ago, on her 41st birthday she finally bit the bullet and had some nice little mahogany touches added. I was nearly moved to tears. You see, there were no good hair genes left for this younger sister so my hair has not seen it's natural state since about 1985!!! ;-)
Today, I'm proud to say that her jet black is no more, she's a lovely light brown with some awesome dark blonde highlights and I just couldn't be more thrilled! I was with her when she had it done the first time and now she's a girl gone wild with her hair color!!
YAY for our new highlighted sister in Christ!!! ;-)
Way to encourage too, sweet Beth!
Val
NC
My 24-year-old daughter, who has been highlighting for years, has been trying to convince me to get highlights. This is something I have never done. She just emailed me and told me that I had to read Mrs. Beth's blog for today. She said, "after you quit laughing, go call the salon!!" Well, I laughed until I had a coughing fit, and I may be almost persuaded. Thanks Beth for a great laugh. You are so precious, bless your heart!
It was obviously providential that I read this post today. I was actually considering lettng the gray grow out and have done with the all the color "stuff". I am truly ashamed and will put that thought of my head posthaste.
Thanks Beth!
HA! This is so funny! I didn't have any highlights in my hair until I was 33 and haven't had it again since (I'm almost 37). I guess becuase my hair is so dark there's just not a whole lot I can do with it. Of course, now I'm starting to get a few greys so I'll be dying my hair LOTS in the future. :s Love this post, as always!
Thanks for the laugh! You are always good for it. Just got home from Bible Study. We are doing Living Beyond Yourself (again)! It is amazing how much you learn the second and third time you do a study. Thank you for your ministry. Looking forward to Esther!
Love your blog. Thanks for the smile! Highlights are a good baby step! :)
I am one week away from having my roots touched up. Let me say it will not be a minute too soon.
I have resorted to a root touch up kit that I bought over the internet to get me by before then. It doesn't work very well. It is kind of like taking a magic marker and running it through your scalp.
I was sort of desparate.
There is NOTHING like having fresh highlights and a new cut. I simply cant imagine. I don't have any grey yet, but they day I see one it will be every six weeks for me. I love your stories. They are so refreshing!!!:)
I think I was born with highlights! When I look back at pictures of me with my children it is comical at the many hair styles, and color-schemes I have sported over the years! I am proud to say that I am 50 and yes, I have numerous highlights and lowlights---it sure beats the gray!
Last time I was in the salon, I had my hair in the foil, color on my eyebrows (my hairdresser insists) newly waxed lip so it had a redness on my skin...my pastor walks in to get hair product for his wife--I think it scared him to death! He did promise me that he would tell no one. Gotta love it!
PS to any siestas going to Jax this weekend--any plans out there to catch up with each other? Would love the opportunity to see your sweet faces. Please email at pwteatime @yahoo.com. Thanks!
Oh Beth - I love you so!!!
I am in awe of those brave enough to go colorless. I myself have absolutely NO idea what my natural color is. Been coloring it that long!
Thank you for not only being a woman of divine inspiration, teaching and leadership ... but also a woman of humor and fun.
You make my day and bless me right on out of my socks!
Oh, and between Starbucks, enchiladas, payless shoes, khols and hair color, not to mention our Jesus, I could seriously hang with you!!!
Because you are just that real.
And, at times, I can almost believe that we are real friends - the kind that actually, ya know, KNOW eachother!!!!
Well, it is very clear to me that the Lord appointed a special woman to encourage a special sister as she starts a very, very special season in her hair life.
Because those highlights may have been subtle today...but give that sister a few months, and she's gonna have her some bold, chunky streaks. She's gonna catch the highlight fever. It's contagious.
And I caught it when I was sixteen.
This post makes me chuckle. I just took my daughter in to the salon with me today for her first appointment with a "stylist." Great mother and daughter bonding time...happy to report I LOOK like a natural blonde...for now, anyway!
Love you!
Jody
You crack me up! I'll have to confess that I'm 34 and have never colored my hair until this year. Before chemo I was a natural blonde,and then after chemo it came back a totally different color. Honestly it looked like a cross between "dry cow patty" and a "brown tumbleweed". SO I had it colored!
My 60-something mother has never had a drop of anything in her hair and I, like you, want to ask, "Why? Here is dye, what hindreth thee from tinting??" I confess that in looking at the women she knows who are DIY-ers, I can see why she is hesitant.
I didn't until I was well into my 30's -- mainly because I liked the honey color of my hair until pregnancy made it get much darker. But now I'm a regular and proud of it!
I am 27 years old. Pregnant with my third, married and have very thick long brown hair and I have NEVER colored my hair. I have talked and considered and dreamed of what I would look like but I have never taken the plunge. Whenever you talk about your hair stories it always makes me laugh and think of what a sub culture of friends I would have if I did.
I am only 28 but have only adventured into the land of hair color once. It was such an "out of my comfort zone" experience that the highlights were barely there. When I asked people if they liked my highlights, they just squinted really hard and even though their words said they did, their face showed they were still trying to find them. They were so light that when they grew out, there weren't even roots! Oh well, it is all for the best. I wouldn't keep up with it well enough anyway!
Goodness, Miss Clairol and I became good buddies around the time I was 21 and I got both gray and my mother's hair all at the same time. I was so embarrased. Of course, I grew out of the "do it yourself" stage and love the results more. Gotta love the first time though.
Can I just say that I love you? I do, girl, I do!
this is hysterical. I love it. I am a natural blonde 26 year older who has never died and who sticks out very much in this country of nepal where EVERYONE has black hair. I also have very white skin. You know what's hysterical.. every nepalee woman I meet wants to be white. They are always putting on whitining cream... and well I tell them that us americans are always trying every which way to be brown.. they look at me in great confusion.
My theory is that I will never even know I went grey if I keep to coloring. I prefer it that way quite honestly...no sense in having that kinda knowledge. But I remember my first highlight and how the women around me gasped in awe, that was some 7 or 8 years ago now and I've never looked back.
Thanks for sharing Miss Beth, I do love your stories!
love
Kim
www.thedudleyfamily.blogspot.com
I am a firm believer (as a hairdresser)that natural hair color is oftentimes like Levitical law.... the law was given to us to show that it is impossible to measure up to perfection and then God sent Christ to be perfect sacrifice for us.... God sent bleach and haircolor to show us what we CAN be (in Christ with color enhancements!) There is freedom from the law in Christ and frredom from mousy color and grays in bleach and color!!! ((not that bleach even comes close to Jesus but you get the metaphor!))
Beth
Nothing like a good conversation about Jesus and then a color and style. Makes for the most perfect day.
Judy
Miss Beth -
You never fail to crack me up! I love it. I am one of 4 girls... and when people see pictures of us all together - they will say... now how did you get all that DARK HAIR? Hmmmmmmmmm... let's see...
I would love to say that the reason I have never dyed my hair is that I truly love my hair JUST THE WAY IT IS... or that I am going "green" and concerned about our environment. Nope... I think the truth is best. It's just plain laziness. You do it once... and then you have to MAINTAIN it...
I am currently 41 (for 2 more weeks...) and getting those "natural" highlights in the form of gray hair. My 5 year old thinks she is being helpful yanking them out for me. (I only wish she'd pull them out ONE at a time...) So I now have to ask... is it more painful to begin a "maintenance program" on my hair... or continue to let Rachel yank me bald-headed??
I'm 43 and have never had a tad of tint either; and believe me, I have plenty of gray to cover. I'm mostly just too lazy to even try to keep up with coloring. Besides, I have a hard enough time just keeping it healthy with a good cut/trim more often than once a year.
You are so crazy!!You are a trip and a half with your hair!! I went with my daughter this past Saturday and she got highlights put in. She looked good. The lady asked me who put mine in and I told her it was natural. It is GREY, but she thought it was a the work of a stylist and I told her it was. He is the stylist of all stylist - His name is JESUS and then I got talk about Him to her - just a little bit, but it was a good starter - you know. Dont get me wrong, if I was not so lazy I would go get it colored back to brown, but going every six weeks just kills me, so I have gone natural and Jesus always comes up. SO my grey is a witnessing tool!! What ever works I guess. I am glad you shared the story with us - it was a hoot! Love you and will see you this weekend in Jax !!! Bless you, Vicki
Too funny, Beth!
I am almost 35 and have done the at-home coloring a few times in college, but haven't ever done anything professional. I would maybe try it, but I can't afford to keep it up. I'm starting to see some gray hairs, though (a 2 year old will do that to ya!) so I may need to reconsider. :)
Love,
Jen (in CO)
I am 44 years old and just had my hair highlighted for the first time a couple of weeks ago. My stylist did an overall color with a reddish tint and then did carmel highlights. It was a big step for me, but I am glad to be part of the "hair club for women." Next time I may get heavy highlights, who knows?
By the way, what are low lights? I thought they were for romantic dinners.
I love being a girl! (sometimes)
Love ya!
Well...I will be 48 this year and I have NEVER done the color thing!!! I have always been afraid that if I even lightened my hair, it would turn RED. SCARE ME!!! I guess I'll just have to be one of those gray headed ladies. Now admit it, gray all over is better than those silver roots!!! LOL And like siesta trudy says PRICEY.
Love your's though, Beth!!! :)
Oh girlfriend, you are so funny! I have to go get my hair "highlighted" because alas and alak, my roots are showing! The last time I went, I gave very explicit instructions about how and where the grey was in my hair. My colorist (by the way,there's like 'specialists' who do highlights, color, specialized color, etc.all different). Anyway, my colorist had the audacity to inform me that "in the process of the highlights, hopefully the grey ones will get covered!" You have got to be stinkin' kidding? $150 or more for highlights and you can't cover a few grey hairs? They even look different, they stick up for crying out loud! Puhleese~ Jesus take the wheel! Surely Lord, You who could make blind men see, You surely can see my grey hair and cover it over with a multi-hued of color!
That is so funny! I haven't had highlights for some time now. I think it's getting to the point that I need to do something! Mousey brown is just not workin' for me!
Without highlights we couldn't use the phrase - blonder than I pay to be!! And that wouldn't be much fun, would it?!
Thanks for the grins.
Hahahaha!
I've only highlighted my hair once too...long ago. And I only get it cut about once a year. You're shocked, I know. But it's true.
Other than a few times I let my "friends" give me highlights in college, I've never really highlighted my hair. But, alas, the grays are starting to make an appearance and my time is drawing nigh.
I just love the candor that we have as women about aging gracefully :). I've been coloring my hair for years - my husband has stopped asking, "What are you going to have done?",a while ago. Probably because the last time he asked I left the house a ravishing brunette with long locks and came back a platinum blonde with barely two inches from root to tip!! Not to mention that it was one day before the company Christmas party at his new job! I loved it - he was a little less enthusiastic about my "new do". After much wailing(my part) and gnashing of teeth(my part too), he clearly saw my side of things. Now he just goes with the flow. More recently, he wasn't much on hot pink highlights but he had fun at the dinner table with the kids trying to determine if it was fuschia, bubble gum pink or a lighter shade of red. Oh well, it keeps him on his toes and it makes him feel like he has a new wife(makes me feel that way too!) My Mom is completely against not keeping the same cut and color from 16-86. She feels like, "Why change a good thing?" But I like to remind her - it's just hair it'll grow back!! LOL!!
Thanks for sharing your real-life girly-girlness with us. Fun stuff.
I have to admit, I'm another 38 year old who's never colored her hair (which makes a gal quite a sideshow at the salon). I only tweezed my brows for the first time last spring, too, as long as we're confessing shocking things.=) Those 1980's perms and big bangs, though? I was right there fussing in the salon with the rest of ya'!
I'm 36 and proud to say that color is my friend!! I first tried it back in college - it was the thing to do! The shine after a good color job is priceless. I thank God for the invention of hair color. It adds some spice to our lives!! I loved hearing about your bonding/blonding experience at the salon!!
Dearest Beth,
Every post brings joy...and a smile to my day. Thank you for sharing with us, loving us and continuing to give us some laughs. I too, cannot imagine being without color, on a very regular basis!!!!
Love you,
Grammygirlfriend
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